Bullying

Bullying Scars

The Impact on Adult Life and Relationships

Author: Ellen W. Delara

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 0190233672

Category: Bullying

Page: 296

View: 1834

An explosion of research on bullying has raised our collective awareness of the serious impacts it can have on children. No longer do we accept it as an innocuous rite of passage, just a part of growing up that we grin and bear and grow out of later. But do we grow out of it, or are there lingering effects that last well beyond the school playgrounds and lunchrooms? Is bullying traumatic and, if so, does it last into adult life? Are there life-long consequences or are the effects pretty much shed as people grow? Are some of us more resilient than others? Are there any positive or unexpected outcomes as a result of being bullied (or having been a bully) as a child? In an effort to answer these questions, Bullying Scars describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults; the book discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit.The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators. Written in an engaging and accessible style that draws heavily from the rich interview data that deLara has collected, this book will be of interest to anyone struggling with the lingering effects of being bullied. Additionally, it is highly relevant to mental health professionals -- counselors, therapists, social workers, clinical psychologists -- working with clients who are dealing with these issues.
Social Science

Bullying Scars

The Impact on Adult Life and Relationships

Author: Ellen Walser deLara

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 0190233699

Category: Social Science

Page: 176

View: 7390

An explosion of research on bullying has raised our collective awareness of the serious impacts it can have on children. No longer do we accept it as an innocuous rite of passage, just a part of growing up that we grin and bear and grow out of later. But do we grow out of it, or are there lingering effects that last well beyond the school playgrounds and lunchrooms? Is bullying traumatic and, if so, does it last into adult life? Are there life-long consequences or are the effects pretty much shed as people grow? Are some of us more resilient than others? Are there any positive or unexpected outcomes as a result of being bullied (or having been a bully) as a child? In an effort to answer these questions, Bullying Scars describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults; the book discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit.The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators. Written in an engaging and accessible style that draws heavily from the rich interview data that deLara has collected, this book will be of interest to anyone struggling with the lingering effects of being bullied. Additionally, it is highly relevant to mental health professionals -- counselors, therapists, social workers, clinical psychologists -- working with clients who are dealing with these issues.
Social Science

Bullying Scars

The Impact on Adult Life and Relationships

Author: Ellen Walser deLara

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 0190233680

Category: Social Science

Page: 176

View: 5939

An explosion of research on bullying has raised our collective awareness of the serious impacts it can have on children. No longer do we accept it as an innocuous rite of passage, just a part of growing up that we grin and bear and grow out of later. But do we grow out of it, or are there lingering effects that last well beyond the school playgrounds and lunchrooms? Is bullying traumatic and, if so, does it last into adult life? Are there life-long consequences or are the effects pretty much shed as people grow? Are some of us more resilient than others? Are there any positive or unexpected outcomes as a result of being bullied (or having been a bully) as a child? In an effort to answer these questions, Bullying Scars describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults; the book discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit.The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators. Written in an engaging and accessible style that draws heavily from the rich interview data that deLara has collected, this book will be of interest to anyone struggling with the lingering effects of being bullied. Additionally, it is highly relevant to mental health professionals -- counselors, therapists, social workers, clinical psychologists -- working with clients who are dealing with these issues.
Education

Bullying in North American Schools

Author: Dorothy L. Espelage,Susan M. Swearer

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1136908943

Category: Education

Page: 336

View: 4276

Bullying in North American Schools is an exciting compilation of research on bullying in school-aged youth by a representative group of researchers, including developmental, social, counseling, school, and clinical psychologists across North America. This new edition: illustrates the complexity of bullying behaviors and offers suggestions for decision-making to intervene and work to reduce bullying behaviors provides empirical guidance for school personnel as they develop bullying prevention and intervention programs or evaluate existing programs uses a social-ecological perspective in which bullying is examined across multiple contexts including individual characteristics, peer and family influences, and classroom dynamics includes basic research data from leaders in the field of bullying and victimization in the United States and Canada teaches practical implications of various types of programs and how to choose and implement one that fits their school ecology. This text will help your students understand how to prevent bullying behavior and how to select and manage intervention efforts in schools and school districts.
Psychology

Adult Bullying

Perpetrators and Victims

Author: Peter Randall

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1134799640

Category: Psychology

Page: 192

View: 7967

The frequency and severity of personal harrassment is a problem that is only just beginning to be uncovered. In Adult Bullying, psychologist Peter Randall uses the voices of both bullies and victims to reveal the misery that many adults endure. He describes the processes that turn child bullies into adult bullies, often aware of their behaviour but unable to stop it. The workplace and the neighbourhood replace the playground, but the tactics and patterns of reward remain the same. The adult victim has little or no more power than the child counterpart, often changing jobs to escape the attentions of the bully. Similarly, managers like teachers, often fail to tackle the complaints of the victim with the seriousness the problem deserves, preferring to believe that the fuss is unwarranted. Adult Bullying will be welcomed by managers, counsellors, social workers and anyone who has experienced personal harrassment. Effective ways to deal with bullying in the community and the workplace are discussed, with particular attention given to the implications for managers and employees.
Self-Help

Stalking the Soul

Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity

Author: Marie-France Hirigoyen,Helen Marx,Thomas Moore

Publisher: Helen Marx Books

ISBN: 9781885586995

Category: Self-Help

Page: 211

View: 2844

A book of extraordinary therapeutic value,makes for a fascinating and eye-opening reading experience. -Alice Miller
Psychology

Emotional Terrorism

Breaking the Chains of a Toxic Relationship

Author: Erin K. Leonard

Publisher: Green Dragon Books

ISBN: 1623860067

Category: Psychology

Page: 130

View: 5947

What does it mean to be emotionally terrorized? Imagine living in a relationships that has you feeling like it would be easier if you were abused.Sometimes emotional and psychological abuse can leave wounds that feel even worse that physical pain. Dr. Erin Leonard gives a voice to the victims who suffer silently within the confines of this relationship dynamic. Exploring the world of hurt, confusion and chaos. With the help of detailed case studies, stories of pain and survival are beautifully articulated through examples of Dr. Leonard's patients. The cases are real and you may picture yourself - or someone you know - in one or more of these shared stories. Gain understanding of what you are up against, and to fight with wisdom.
Family & Relationships

A Ladder In The Dark

My Journey from Bullying to Self-acceptance

Author: Alan L Eisenberg

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780996331302

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 204

View: 6324

FORGET LEXINGTON!" "I dug a deep hole in the back of my mind to place a shoebox of all the bullying memories that happened to me growing up in Lexington, Massachusetts. By making this hole and burying these memories, I hoped to forget what had happened to me and move forward with my life. I covered the hole with a lid and spray-painted the words "ANXIETY and DEPRESSION. DO NOT OPEN!" But memories don't just go away ... This true and inspirational story of Alan Eisenberg's life offers a raw and honest portrait of a bullying survivor and takes you on a journey that, in the end, leads to recovery and solutions to help heal from the trauma of the long-term effects of bullying. The issue of the long-term effects that bullying has on people is brought to life through Alan's story and how he tried to suppress the childhood trauma brought on by bullying, but finally had to confront it when anxiety, self-esteem issues, and finally depression set in. How childhood bullying affects us into our adult years. In his quest to find answers to what happened in his early life, Alan shares his discoveries of what Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is. How you can recognize it's symptoms. Alan also shares how we must learn to make peace with the past to move forward. Additionally, Alan shares how he dealt with the anxiety and depression that came from the bullying he endured. How he found his Ladder in the Dark to climb up it to help recover from the long-term effects that bullying can create to recover his self-esteem. It is powerful and unforgettable story of one person's journey from being a bullying abuse victim through a journey of confronting their past to regain their authentic self.
Religion

Hope and Healing from Emotional Abuse

Author: Gregory L. Ph.D. Jantz,Ann McMurray

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441242961

Category: Religion

Page: 320

View: 4190

Whether caused by words, actions, or even indifference, emotional abuse is common--yet often overlooked. This helpful guide reveals how those who have been abused by a spouse, parent, employer, or minister can overcome the past and rebuild their self-image. It includes •strategies for dealing with the verbal abuser •self-check quizzes with each chapter •keys to rebuilding relationships •letters from survivors of emotional abuse •help dealing with spiritual abuse •a biblical plan for healing
Family & Relationships

Broken Children, Grown-up Pain

Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past

Author: Paul Hegstrom

Publisher: Beacon Hill Press

ISBN: 9780834122512

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 151

View: 8315

Despair. Emotional isolation. Self-loathing. Immaturity. Abusive actions.These are just some of the damaging fragments that remain embedded within our personalities, behaviors, and souls when we are broken as children. The memory of the past may seem distant and clouded, but within its scars deep wounds remain that continue to inflict pain upon our adult lives--and often end up spilling into the lives of others.In Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain, Paul Hegstrom, author of Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them, shows us the scars from his broken childhood and shares practical and proven methods for facing and dealing with the pain of the past. By using scientific research, psychological studies, and biblical principles--especially those found in the Jewish model of raising children--he points us to the place of healing where we are finally free to pursue authentic relationships and build healthy emotional intimacy with others.This updated version of Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain is an excellent resource for pastors, teachers, counselors, psychologists, parents, or anyone wounded by an abusive past.
Self-Help

Beat the Bully

A Guide to Dealing with Adult Bullying

Author: Alex Gadd

Publisher: Lulu.com

ISBN: 0955989914

Category: Self-Help

Page: 49

View: 4300

When it comes to bullying, there is a vast amount of information written on this topic. Unfortunately most of the research and advice has been written with regards to bullying amongst children, within the school playground, etc. Unfortunately many bullies don't grow out of this mind-set and as such, end up as adult bullies and unfortunately, there is not much advice on how to deal with an adult bully! In Beat The Bully, you will learn what exactly a bully is and discover a simple test to see whether you are being bullied or not. Yet most importantly, you will discover the techniques that you can put in place to stop the bullying once and for all, no matter what type of bully is targeting you. Even if you don't believe that you are being targeted by a bully, the tools in this book will provide you with the resources so that if you ever are, you will not be powerless.
Education

Bullying

The Social Destruction of Self

Author: Laura Martocci

Publisher: Temple University Press

ISBN: 9781439910726

Category: Education

Page: 229

View: 6056

In her forceful social history, Bullying, Laura Martocci explores the “bully culture” that has claimed national attention since the late 1990s. Moving beyond the identification of aggressive behaviors to an analysis of how and why we have arrived at a culture that thrives on humiliation, she critiques the social forces that gave rise to, and help maintain, bullying. Martocci’s analysis of gossip, laughter, stereotyping, and competition—dynamics that foment bullying and prompt responses of shame, violence, and depression—is positioned within a larger social narrative: the means by which we negotiate damaged social bonds and the role that bystanders play in the possibility of atonement, forgiveness, and redemption. Martocci’s fresh perspective on bullying positions shame as pivotal. She urges us to acknowledge the pain and confusion caused by social disgrace; to understand its social, psychological, and neurological nature; and to address it through narratives of loss, grief, and redemption—cultural supports that are already in place.
Young Adult Fiction

The Scar Boys

Author: Len Vlahos

Publisher: Carolrhoda Lab ™

ISBN: 1606844407

Category: Young Adult Fiction

Page: 256

View: 6503

A severely burned teenager. A guitar. Punk rock. The chords of a rock 'n' roll road trip in a coming-of-age novel that is a must-read story about finding your place in the world . . . even if you carry scars inside and out. In attempting to describe himself in his college application essay—to "help us to become acquainted with you beyond your courses, grades, and test scores"—Harbinger (Harry) Jones goes way beyond the 250-word limit and gives a full account of his life. The first defining moment: the day the neighborhood goons tied him to a tree during a lightning storm when he was 8 years old, and the tree was struck and caught fire. Harry was badly burned and has had to live with the physical and emotional scars, reactions from strangers, bullying, and loneliness that instantly became his everyday reality. The second defining moment: the day in eighth grade when the handsome, charismatic Johnny rescued him from the bullies and then made the startling suggestion that they start a band together. Harry discovered that playing music transported him out of his nightmare of a world, and he finally had something that compelled people to look beyond his physical appearance. Harry's description of his life in his essay is both humorous and heart-wrenching. He had a steeper road to climb than the average kid, but he ends up learning something about personal power, friendship, first love, and how to fit in the world. While he's looking back at the moments that have shaped his life, most of this story takes place while Harry is in high school and the summer after he graduates.

Teaching Bullies

Zero Tolerance in the Court Or in the Classroom

Author: Jennifer M. Fraser

Publisher: Motion Press

ISBN: 9780994082022

Category:

Page: 360

View: 1042

Teaching Bullies tells the story of fourteen students who came forward with detailed testimonies of what they were experiencing at the hands of their teachers on the basketball court. How they were treated by school administrators, lawyers and educational authorities is cause for concern and reveals that the last bastion of accepted abuse may well be sports.

Out of the Fowler's Snare

Author: Roseanne Sanderfoot

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

ISBN: 9781548535025

Category:

Page: 280

View: 1228

Out of the Fowler's Snare is an inspiring and honest memoir revealing the pain and devastation of high school bullying and its impact on an adult life. Damaged emotions, low self-esteem, and the author's poor choices collide to form a trapped, unhappy existence. This Christian author candidly reveals her long personal struggle for freedom and wholeness. After years on a winding path to find healing, she realizes that it is an enemy fowler that holds her captive. Her rescue finally does come in a most unexpected way bringing her redemption and heartfelt joy! Out of the Fowler's Snare is a Christian, real-life story of restoration written in two parts. You will sense the deep pain of The Capture, but also the joy and hope of The Rescue. Once you learn the secret of the rescue, you can begin to imagine and find new hope for your own scarred life.
Fiction

My Fathers Scar

A Novel

Author: Michael Cart

Publisher: Macmillan

ISBN: 9780312181376

Category: Fiction

Page: 192

View: 2135

Eighteen year-old Andy Logan has finally made it to his first year og college, but not without some struggle. As he tries to settle in this new environment, he cannot help but recall the events and experiences that have led him there. It is in these recollections that we meet a vast array of people--those who had either helped Andy along the way or had threatened his hope to escape. These are the stories of his hope to escape. These are the stories of his great-uncle, the one person who seemed to understand him; his father, who domineering presence and unwavering anger were the rules, not the exeptions; and Evan, an older boy who became his first true love. Rarely does a writer capture the essence of the journey from a child to adult so acutely. Cart's dazzling novel is a potent reminder of the pain and the euphoria that come from growing up and how we remember our family, friends, and first loves.
Juvenile Fiction

The Enemy

Detroit, 1954

Author: Sara Holbrook

Publisher: Highlights Press

ISBN: 1629797960

Category: Juvenile Fiction

Page: 224

View: 5051

Set in 1954, this compelling historical novel tells the story of a young girl’s struggles and triumphs in the aftermath of World War II. The war is over, but the threat of communism and the Cold War loom over the United States. In Detroit, Michigan, twelve-year-old Marjorie Campbell struggles with the ups and downs of family life, dealing with her veteran father’s unpredictable outbursts, keeping her mother’s stash of banned library books a secret, and getting along with her new older “brother,” the teenager her family took in after his veteran father’s death. When a new girl from Germany transfers to Marjorie’s class, Marjorie finds herself torn between befriending Inga and pleasing her best friend, Bernadette, by writing in a slam book that spreads rumors about Inga. Marjorie seems to be confronting enemies everywhere—at school, at the library, in her neighborhood, and even in the news. In all this turmoil, Marjorie tries to find her own voice and figure out what is right and who the real enemies actually are. Includes an author’s note and bibliography.
Young Adult Nonfiction

Girl World

How to Ditch the Drama and Find Your Inner Amazing

Author: Patricia Ottaviano

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.

ISBN: 1492609137

Category: Young Adult Nonfiction

Page: 160

View: 5768

Mean stares. Hurtful whispers. The cold shoulder. Being a girl is harder than it looks. In a world where gossip, drama, and rumors seem to be never ending, it's not easy to navigate the halls of middle school or high school without earning a few battle scars. But what if you could change all that? With practical advice for how to fearlessly stand your ground, hold your own, and dictate your own happiness, Girl World will help you move beyond the bad attitudes and transform your insecurities into strengths. From friendship conflicts to the ugly side to social media, learn how to ditch the drama and kick your inner critic to the curb so you can truly start appreciating yourself. Every day is a new day. Embrace it!
History

Bully Nation

How the American Establishment Creates a Bullying Society

Author: Charles Derber,Yale R. Magrass

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780700622603

Category: History

Page: 248

View: 8150

Bully Nation is the most comprehensive analysis of bullying yet published. It is a brilliant book that refused to define bullying as merely a psychological concept. Instead, it addresses in great detail the interplay of bullying as having its roots in a range of historical, economic, political, and social conditions. In this instance, bullying functions as a metaphor to connect the private the public, specific acts of violence to larger forms of systemic violence. Rather than treat bullying as part of a rite of passage confined to the often difficult process of growing up, Derber and Magrass treat it as a systemic force that produces values, social relations, structures, and collective identities steeped in violence and aggression. This is a powerful and compelling book that addresses one of the most important social problems of our time.
Social Science

Shame Nation

The Global Epidemic of Online Hate

Author: Sue Scheff,Melissa Schorr

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.

ISBN: 1492649007

Category: Social Science

Page: 352

View: 1289

Foreword by Monica Lewinsky and as seen on Dr. Oz "Smart. Timely. Essential. The era's must-read to renew Internet civility." — Michele Borba ED.D, author of Unselfie An essential toolkit to help everyone — from parents to teenagers to educators — take charge of their digital lives. Online shame comes in many forms, and it's surprising how much of an effect a simple tweet might have on your business, love life, or school peers. A rogue tweet might bring down a CEO; an army of trolls can run an individual off-line; and virtual harassment might cause real psychological damage. In Shame Nation, parent advocate and internet safety expert Sue Scheff presents an eye-opening examination around the rise in online shaming, and offers practical advice and tips including: • Preventing digital disasters • Defending your online reputation • Building digital resilience • Reclaiming online civility Armed with the right knowledge and skills, everyone can play a positive part in the prevention and protection against online cruelty, and become more courageous and empathetic in their communities. "Shame Nation holds that elusive key to stopping the trend of online hate so kindness and compassion can prevail." — Rachel Macy Stafford, New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama, Hands Free Life, and Only Love Today "Scheff offers the latest insight as to why people publicly shame each other and will equip readers with the tools to protect themselves from what has now become the new Scarlet Letter." — Ross Ellis, Founder and CEO, STOMP Out Bullying